His 95-year-old mother is home from the hospital after a two-week stay for a pacemaker and pneumonia treatment. I ask how he’s doing, and he writes, “Tired but elated that she pulled through.”
I know that feeling – tired but elated. When in that caregiver role, you are perpetually tired. And each health setback that doesn’t take your loved one away is cause for elation.
Until. Until you realize that the living is hard. That you’re not going to outrun death forever. That the end is inevitable. That there are worse things than dying. That your mother is going to leave you no matter what. No matter what you do, she will someday be gone forever.
But now, in this time and place, I too am elated for my cousin and my aunt. They have more time – they want more time. It’s still worth it. And they’ll both know when it isn’t.
In memory of my Aunt Bertha who passed away last week.
Someday we’ll be able to measure the power of words. I think they are things. They get on the walls…they get in your rugs, in your upholstery, in your clothes and, finally, they enter you. - Maya Angelou
The written and spoken word determines what we do in life and how we do it. And since words ultimately guide our actions, it is important for us to speak words of truth, love and every good thing we desire to experience into existence. -Iyanla Vanzant
My written reflections are posted here for those eager to find their way to a deeper understanding of the universal human experience. Words have always been so important to me, the written word especially. But I never fully realized the power of words until the publication of my book, They Live On. I have since learned that change occurs from the inside out and that we influence our collective future one person at a time, soul-to-soul. I welcome your comments and stories as we together seek a higher consciousness. The pen is indeed mightier than the sword. -Patricia A. Nugent
Welcome to the website for They Live On: Saying Goodbye to Mom and Dad. Please peruse the tabs to find more information about this book consisting of 300 vignettes that portray the stages of caring for and saying goodbye to a loved one, as seen through the eyes of a daughter and her terminally ill parents.